Miss(ed) Manners

November 28, 2007

It’s Over There By The FAO Schwartz

Filed under: 9/11,Rants — missedmanners @ 6:16 pm

When I was out getting lunch today someone came up to me and quietly excused himself. Under his breath he asked me, “Which way is Ground Zero®?”

He almost sounded ashamed, like I would be offended that he not know where it is.

I was offended, sure, but not because he wasn’t as informed about our great national tragedy as he ought to be.

I was offended because that place isn’t a fucking tourist spot and regardless of why he was headed there, that guy represented to me any one of the thousands of people I’ve seen standing around staring at that hole in the ground in somber silence.

You don’t go there to take pictures. You don’t go there to try and identify with something. You don’t go there to buy a motherfucking NYFD hat because you know a volunteer firefighter back in Ohio and he’s a hero too. You go there to take a train because there’s a big PATH station below it and that’ll take you off our island and back to Jersey where you can drive away.

If you didn’t live here when it happened, if you didn’t see them fall from less than a mile away, if you didn’t know anyone who died in there on that day, then it’s not your tragedy. It’s not your tragedy because no matter what the news tells you, no terrorist will ever target a mall in North Dakota. Just paying taxes in this country doesn’t mean you get to go there and get filled up with some kind of phony spiritualism six years after the fact.

So if it wasn’t your tragedy and you’re standing around snapping shots of the world’s slowest construction project and you’re saddened by the senseless, preventable loss of life… then logically you should be just as upset that ten times that number die every day in even more preventable fashions all over the world.

You should be outraged, in fact.

What are you doing standing around?

Go find a Red Cross office and volunteer.



  1. Goddamn pathos vampires. Cheap vicarious sanctimony should be a hanging offense.

    A desperate state of affairs when folks will do anything to jump on a bandwagon, do just about anything to feel something more than desolation, something false, delusional and ultimately destructive.

    What were we talking about? sick junkies?

    Comment by grouchosuave — November 29, 2007 @ 1:06 am | Reply

  2. I was fortunate to have taken my daughter and then stepson to WTC a few years BEFORE they went down and I treasure that memory because they can at least say they were there and have pix to prove it.

    In addition, I’m fortunate that my Godmother and her hubby who were visiting from London woke up late that fateful morning and weren’t there as they had planned.

    I went once to see the wreckage and it broke me into a million pieces. Why did I go? Because I realize how close I came to losing people I loved there. Would I go again? No, because it’s too sad, too empty, and I have nothing to positively contribute by being there.

    I agree that it’s not some new fangled tourist spot and it shouldn’t be treated as such. Lives were lost and lives were forever changed thereafter. It’s crazy what constitutes interest in people sometimes.

    Comment by BluJewel — November 29, 2007 @ 9:30 am | Reply

  3. I have come close to punching people who want to gawk at what is now Ground Zero. A couple of weeks after 9/11, I had dinner w/a group of people, and one of them was a finance dude from Buffalo — and he was so happy that the phone company got the stock exchange up and running so fast that I couldn’t help telling him, people have been moving away from your town for years, and there’s not a chance in hell anyone would throw a firecracker in your direction.

    Whenever the monument gets built (in our lifetimes?) to everyone who lost their lives that day, I hope we charge double to anyone who can’t produce ID with an NYC address.

    I can’t imagine anyone was lining up to go to Pearl Harbor the minute the dust settled.

    Comment by aliceuptown — December 4, 2007 @ 12:01 am | Reply

  4. You want that fucking hole in the ground as all yours, then your welcome to it. I’ve heard these kind of “I/we deserve more pity than you…” rants before. In a pity contest you win. Lucky you, you’re more pitiful. New York did not deserve to be hit like that. But now, they deserve every damn day that they allow that gaping hole remain. How long did YOUR precious towers take to build in the first place? How long did YOUR precious Empire State Building take to build during the friggin depression. Yeah, I’ll ask directions “Which way to the hole, I have to take a piss.” Don’t cry to me about how disrespectful it is to piss in that hole. That’s your tragedy (as you reminded me) not mine.
    Damn straight I’ll honor Pearl Harbor, Gettysburg, and Post Katrina N’awlins. But as for “Ground Zero”…… Man, I have to piss like a racehorse! Which way to the hole?!

    -From the Ravings of the Psychomancer

    Comment by Psychomancer — December 7, 2007 @ 9:59 am | Reply

  5. 😆

    Psychomancer? Really? That’s what you call yourself? Seriously?

    Comment by missedmanners — December 7, 2007 @ 11:56 am | Reply

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  7. Just became something of a fan….yoru candy Minas Tirith has gone global.

    Anycase I don’t get this. Its like saying if you haven’t served in the military you can’t talk about the war. And trust me…I am a vet of 10 years with 20% disability (cripes I am only 33).

    While I get it. It shouldn’t be a toursit spot and I for one wouldn’t want to go there (hell i can’t watch Blackhawk Down or We Were Soldiers for a second time), its not kosher to thumb your nose.

    For what its worth you can have you angst. I get it. Truly do. I just don’t agree with it.

    Comment by FNG — January 16, 2008 @ 2:55 pm | Reply

  8. Thanks for the respectful disagreement, FNG. It was definitely just a knee-jerk reaction to a build up of seeing the location be continually misunderstood.

    And I wouldn’t say that you can’t talk about the war if you’re not a veteran, rather something more along the lines like you’re not allowed to argue strategic details. 😉

    Comment by missedmanners — January 16, 2008 @ 3:07 pm | Reply

  9. go fuck your self, idiot.
    Dont u understand the fact that the other persons has some feelings, different of u?
    If you be angry with which motherfucker who will ask to u ‘where is the Wolrd Trade Center’, so start to lunch at home. In your private and patetic world. STUPID.

    Comment by Toninho cheira bosta — September 10, 2008 @ 3:16 pm | Reply

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